Early last year my now-fiance and I fell pregnant. So much was bad about the timing, not just that we were both young, but the relationship was fairly new, we could barly afford to pay the bills as it was, we had to move and I had to borrow from my parents just to have enough money for the bond, our parents would have killed us both, I'm still in Uni and my man and I will have to travel all over for his training when he joins the army. We just couldn't do it, at least not properly, the way your supposed to raise a baby. The kind of life he/she deserved was out of our reach. So we made the hardest decision in the world, and one I regret every single day. I wish with all my heart that we had listened to our hearts and not our heads. Last week my sister-in-law had a little boy, and it is tearing me apart.
I know its a very personal event, but if you'd care to share your experience, even via private message, it would be greatly appreciated.

The same loser with the condom line had a sticker on his wall. "I'm a Mountain man and I like Mountain women". Ha ha, wait a moment while I scoop my IQ off the carpet. I hated this sticker. It made me feel degraded in ways I was soon to find out were mild in comparison to what came next. But anyway, I hated it. And he said he loved me. But he refused solid to take it down. After some sulking on my part, it came down. But the very next vist, it was up again, next to my picture. So I took it down myself and torn it up. This second-hand piece of sticky paper meant more to him than making me happy. Why does this seem to be such a trend with men? Refusing to give up the smallest thing for the person they are with and should care for. Perhaps they are unwillling to give it up in case the relationship doesn't work out. But this reluctance to give away that porn collection or not squeeze toothpaste from the middle (why does this matter for women so much?????? I'm a girl, and I don't get it, maybe someone can help me with this too lol... no, seriously PLEASE!!!) can be the straw that breaks the camel's back in relationships.
So dudes, why so reluctant?

Yes, I want to talk about the things guys say to get you in bed, get you to do something kinky or just plain gross, make you feel like c**p so you'll stay with them, make you feel like its your fault when its not, basically all the things they say that are f%$ked up and intended to get from you what they want.
Like one boyfriend I had who told me condoms dissolve in water so I'd have unprotected sex in the shower... when that plan fell on its ass, he told me I treated him so badly I reminded him of his abusive father. Although I didn't end up having that shower, I did end up a self-harmer by the end that 3 day visit.
So, in the interest of outting the tricks men who say ANYTHING to get what they want, I'm asking women: What tricks have men used to get what they want from you? And I'm asking men: What tricks have you or a mate used to get what you want from a girl?

Ok, I've had terrible taste in men. Awful. One strung up on his ex, one strung out on weed, one strung out amongst a LOT of other women (including a Hooters stripper, if you believe him). I should have known none of them were serious about me... There were signs!!!!! LOTS OF SIGNS!!!!!!!! It was like a sign emporium for God's sake. And I can see that NOW. But now doesn't help. I wanted to know then. Back before I gave away my virginity to someone who was only having fun with me and was embarrassed to be seen with me. Before I got involved with a pot-head who threatened to kill me. Before I got locked in some idiot's house for a night. Bad things happen to girls all the time. We all get burned. But our experiences can help the un-burned, or stop others getting singed so often.
So, my question is: How can you tell when a guy is really, truly interested, and how can you tell when he's not and he's just playing you???