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Mean Girls: Bully For Our Gender

by sugarburn @ 2007-04-20 - 14:15:25

Both my man and I have experienced bullying, him to a much greater degree than I.
I won't talk about what happened to him, its not my place to tell, and besides I'm writing for girls anyway. If anyone wonders why I always include my experiences if I can, then it isn't out of ego or to try and get sympathy: I just don't expect others to tell me things this personal and not to share myself.
My sisters and neices (from my father's side of the family) emotionally and verbally bullied me progressivly from the time I was 5 till I was 15. Although it hurt me very badly at the time, I think I got off lightly, compared to the things girls at school go through every single day. The text message assaults, ostrication from groups, taunting, name calling, rumours, lies, and so much more. I experienced a lot of this, but it could never go too far because our parents were always near and none of them were willing to be too overt in case they were caught. Most of my sisters were meaner to their daughters than either my sisters or their daughters ever were to me. Which is rather sad.
My mother says now that her biggest regret in life is how my dad's daughters and their daughters treated me. But she never lifted a finger to stop them. According to here it was my fault and I deserved it. The saddest thing is that a lot of teachers and principles in schools feel the smae way! That being bullied is a sign of your weakness or defectivness, or that you somewho throough your actions cause people to bully you. Bullies find people who they are smaller, shorter, quiter or shyer than themselves: they pick an easy target. Bullies don't bully you because of you, they do it to gain power in their own lives where there is none.   
So today I am asking: what has been your experience with girl to girl bullying? Either as the victim, bully or maybe even an onlooker or parent.

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